How to Choose an Assisted Living Facility
Choosing where your parent will live is one of the most important decisions you'll make. The right place can give them safety, community, and quality of life. The wrong one can be isolating, substandard, or worse.
This guide walks you through the process step by step.
Before You Start Looking
Assess Your Parent's Needs
Before touring facilities, understand what level of care your parent actually needs:
- Activities of daily living (ADLs): Bathing, dressing, toileting, eating, transferring, continence
- Instrumental ADLs: Medication management, finances, housekeeping, meal prep
- Cognitive status: Memory issues? Wandering risk? Decision-making ability?
- Medical needs: Diabetes management? Oxygen? Wound care?
- Mobility: Walker? Wheelchair? Fall risk?
Our Care Needs Assessment tool can help you understand exactly what level of care your parent needs.
Set a Realistic Budget
Know what you can afford before you fall in love with a facility:
- What are your parent's monthly income sources?
- What savings/assets are available?
- Does your parent have long-term care insurance?
- Is your parent a veteran (VA benefits)?
- Will family members contribute?
Step-by-Step Process
Start with a list of facilities in your preferred location. Resources:
- Google/Yelp reviews (take with grain of salt)
- Medicare's Care Compare tool
- State licensing agency inspection reports
- Referrals from hospital social workers or doctors
- Recommendations from friends/family
Before visiting, call to get basic information:
- Do they have availability? (Many have waitlists)
- What's the base monthly rate?
- What does that include? What costs extra?
- Do they accept Medicaid (if that's a consideration)?
- What levels of care do they provide?
- Can they accommodate your parent's specific needs?
Visit at least 3-5 facilities. Schedule both formal tours and unannounced visits:
- Tour during mealtime to observe food and dining experience
- Visit during an activity to see engagement
- Drop by unannounced to see the "real" operation
- If possible, bring your parent to get their reaction
The environment:
- Is it clean? How does it smell?
- Is it well-lit and easy to navigate?
- Are outdoor spaces accessible?
- Do rooms have windows? Space for personal items?
The residents:
- Do they seem engaged or sedated?
- Are they dressed and groomed appropriately?
- Do they seem happy to be there?
The staff:
- Do they greet you and residents warmly?
- Do they know residents by name?
- What's the staff turnover rate?
- What's the staff-to-resident ratio?
About care:
- How do you assess residents' needs?
- How often are care plans reviewed?
- What happens if needs increase significantly?
- How is medication managed?
- What are your discharge criteria?
About staff:
- What training do aides receive?
- Is there a nurse on-site 24/7?
- What's the staff turnover?
About costs:
- What's included in the base rate?
- What services cost extra?
- How are care levels priced?
- How much notice before rate increases?
Every licensed facility is inspected regularly. Review reports from your state's licensing agency:
- What deficiencies were cited?
- Were they corrected?
- Are there patterns of problems?
- Any complaints filed?
The best insights come from people already living there:
- Ask for permission to speak with current residents
- Request contact information for family members
- Check online reviews, but verify them
Red Flags to Watch For
- Strong odors (urine, feces, heavy air freshener)
- Residents who seem over-sedated or unkempt
- Understaffed or stressed-looking staff
- High staff turnover
- Evasive answers to your questions
- Pressure to sign immediately
- Won't let you see certain areas
- Recent serious violations in inspection reports
- Locked doors without explanation
- No activities scheduled or residents sitting idle
Questions to Ask Your Parent
After tours, ask your parent:
- Which place felt most comfortable?
- Did you like any of the staff you met?
- Could you see yourself eating in that dining room?
- Were there activities that interested you?
- What concerns do you have?
Making the Final Decision
When comparing finalists, consider:
- Quality of care: Staffing, training, approach
- Environment: Cleanliness, safety, atmosphere
- Location: Proximity to family, doctors, familiar area
- Cost: Total cost including extras, and ability to stay if needs change
- Gut feeling: Does it feel right?
- Your parent's preference: Their voice matters most
Before signing, understand: move-in fees, rate increase policies, what triggers discharge, refund policies if they leave or pass away, and what happens if they run out of money.
Compare Facilities Side by Side
Use our facility comparison tool to track and compare your top choices.
Compare FacilitiesAfter Move-In
- Visit frequently, especially in the first few months
- Vary your visit times to see different shifts
- Get to know staff by name
- Attend care plan meetings
- Speak up immediately about concerns
- Know the facility's complaint process and your state's ombudsman