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Sleep Problems in Elderly Parents

14 min read Updated January 2026

Poor sleep is one of the most common complaints in elderly—and one of the most undertreated. Sleep problems cause daytime fatigue, cognitive issues, falls, depression, and caregiver exhaustion (when they're up, you're up). Understanding why elderly sleep changes is the first step to finding solutions.

Normal Changes vs Problems

Some sleep changes are normal with aging: earlier bedtimes, earlier waking, lighter sleep, more nighttime awakenings. But difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep for most of the night, or severe daytime fatigue are not normal and deserve treatment.

Why Elderly Don't Sleep Well

Medical Conditions

Pain (arthritis, neuropathy), urinary frequency, heart failure, COPD, restless legs, sleep apnea—all disrupt sleep significantly.

Medications

Many drugs interfere with sleep: steroids, beta blockers, some antidepressants, diuretics (cause nighttime bathroom trips), stimulating medications.

Sleep Disorders

Sleep apnea is very common in elderly (often undiagnosed). Restless leg syndrome, periodic limb movements, REM behavior disorder.

Circadian Rhythm Shifts

The body clock shifts earlier with age (hence 4 AM wake times). Reduced melatonin production. Less exposure to sunlight exacerbates this.

Mental Health

Depression and anxiety are common in elderly and significantly impact sleep. Often presents as early morning waking.

Poor Sleep Habits

Too much time in bed, daytime napping, irregular schedule, TV in bedroom, caffeine or alcohol use.

Dementia

Causes day-night reversal, wandering at night, sundowning. Sleep disruption can also worsen dementia symptoms.

Environment

Facility noise, uncomfortable bed, too hot/cold, unfamiliar surroundings after a move.

Sleep Hygiene: The First Step

Before medications, try behavioral approaches—they're often more effective and don't have side effects.

1

Consistent Sleep Schedule

Same bedtime and wake time every day—including weekends. No sleeping in to "catch up." The body clock needs consistency.

2

Limit Time in Bed

Only go to bed when sleepy. If not asleep in 20 minutes, get up and do something boring until drowsy. Bed is for sleep, not lying awake.

3

Morning Light Exposure

Bright light in the morning (30+ minutes) helps reset the circadian rhythm. Outdoor light is best; light therapy boxes work for homebound.

4

Limit Daytime Naps

If napping is necessary, one nap maximum, 20-30 minutes, before 3 PM. Long or late naps destroy nighttime sleep.

5

Evening Wind-Down

Dim lights 1-2 hours before bed. Avoid screens (phones, tablets, TV). Calm activities: reading, gentle music, warm bath.

Additional Tips

Sleep Medications in Elderly

Sleep medications are problematic in elderly. Most increase fall risk, cause confusion, and can cause dependence. Use cautiously and only when other approaches fail.

Medications to Avoid

The American Geriatrics Society Beers Criteria lists many sleep medications as potentially inappropriate for elderly due to serious side effects. Always discuss risks vs benefits with the doctor.

Medication Issues in Elderly Risk Level
Diphenhydramine (Benadryl, Tylenol PM) Confusion, falls, urinary retention, constipation, dry mouth Avoid
Benzodiazepines (Valium, Ativan, Xanax) Falls, fractures, confusion, cognitive impairment, dependence Avoid
Zolpidem (Ambien) Sleepwalking, confusion, falls, morning drowsiness—use lowest dose only Caution
Melatonin Relatively safe; 0.5-3mg typical dose; timing matters more than dose Safer option
Trazodone Often used for sleep; low dose (25-50mg); can cause morning grogginess Caution
Mirtazapine Antidepressant with sedating properties; can increase appetite (good or bad) Caution
Ramelteon (Rozerem) Melatonin receptor agonist; fewer side effects but less potent Safer option

If Medications Are Necessary

When to See a Doctor

Sleep Apnea Warning Signs

Very common in elderly and often missed. Look for:

Sleep apnea worsens heart disease, increases stroke risk, and impairs cognition. Treatment with CPAP can be life-changing.

Getting Sleep Apnea Diagnosed

Home sleep tests are now widely available and covered by Medicare—no overnight lab stay required. Talk to the doctor if you suspect apnea.

Other Reasons to Call the Doctor

Special Situations

Dementia and Sleep

Sleep problems in dementia require different approaches. Sundowning, day-night reversal, and nighttime wandering are common. See our guide: Dementia Sleep Problems.

Sleeping in the Hospital or Facility

Hospitals and care facilities are terrible for sleep—bright lights, noise, vitals checks, unfamiliar environment. Advocate for:

Caregiver Sleep Deprivation

If your parent's sleep problems are destroying your sleep:

Caregiver sleep deprivation is a safety issue—tired caregivers make mistakes and have car accidents. Your sleep matters too.

When It's Just "Old Age"

Some sleep changes can't be fixed and must be accepted:

Focus on quality of sleep and daytime function rather than number of hours.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why do elderly people have trouble sleeping?

Sleep changes with age: less deep sleep, more night awakenings, and earlier bedtimes/wake times. Common causes of poor sleep include chronic pain, frequent urination, sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome, medication side effects, depression, anxiety, dementia, and poor sleep habits. Medical conditions and their treatments often disrupt sleep. Evaluation by a doctor can identify treatable causes.

Is it normal for elderly to sleep a lot during the day?

Mild daytime drowsiness can be normal with age, but excessive daytime sleepiness isn't. It may indicate poor nighttime sleep, sleep apnea, medication effects, depression, dementia, or underlying illness. Sleeping more than 9 hours total (night plus naps) is associated with increased health risks. If your parent sleeps excessively, consult their doctor to rule out treatable causes.

Are sleeping pills safe for elderly?

Most sleep medications increase fall risk, cognitive impairment, and next-day drowsiness in elderly patients. The American Geriatrics Society recommends avoiding benzodiazepines and most sleep aids for older adults. If medication is necessary, safer options may include low-dose trazodone or melatonin under medical supervision. Non-medication approaches (sleep hygiene, cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia) should be tried first.

How much sleep does a 70 year old need?

Most adults 65+ need 7-8 hours of sleep per night, though individual needs vary. The quality of sleep matters as much as quantity. Older adults spend less time in deep, restorative sleep stages. If your parent sleeps 7-8 hours but still feels unrefreshed, they may have a sleep disorder like sleep apnea. Consistent sleep schedules help maintain healthy sleep patterns.